Author: LNG

PART 6 – Walter tried to involve our children until Rachel refused to let his birthday become a family vote on my money !! Walter involved the children anyway. Not …

PART 6 – Walter tried to involve our children until Rachel refused to let his birthday become a family vote on my money !! Read More

PART 7 – I came home from Oregon with clearer boundaries and a husband who still believed marriage meant automatic access !! I came home from Oregon with one suitcase, …

PART 7 – I came home from Oregon with clearer boundaries and a husband who still believed marriage meant automatic access !! Read More

PART 8 – Our first counseling sessions exposed how Walter’s providing had slowly become permission to overrule me !! Dr. Greene asked Walter to describe the phrase provider. Walter straightened. …

PART 8 – Our first counseling sessions exposed how Walter’s providing had slowly become permission to overrule me !! Read More

PART 9 – I stopped asking whether Walter agreed with every purchase and started asking whether I agreed with the marriage !! By spring, I stopped asking the question everyone …

PART 9 – I stopped asking whether Walter agreed with every purchase and started asking whether I agreed with the marriage !! Read More

PART 10 – Temporary separation forced both of us to learn what our shared finances actually required and what they did not !! Temporary separation came after a fight about …

PART 10 – Temporary separation forced both of us to learn what our shared finances actually required and what they did not !! Read More

PART 11 – Walter’s health scare tested whether I could care about him without surrendering the boundaries I had finally built !! Walter’s health scare happened in month five of …

PART 11 – Walter’s health scare tested whether I could care about him without surrendering the boundaries I had finally built !! Read More

PART 12 – Our children adjusted when I refused to turn their father into a villain or make them choose which parent was right !! Our children adjusted badly before …

PART 12 – Our children adjusted when I refused to turn their father into a villain or make them choose which parent was right !! Read More

PART 13 – Walter apologized for the restaurant but repair only began after he stopped defending the forty years behind it !! Walter’s apology for the restaurant changed over time. …

PART 13 – Walter apologized for the restaurant but repair only began after he stopped defending the forty years behind it !! Read More

PART 14 – I built a life that included travel, work, and family without treating my retirement money as proof of independence !! I moved home after nine months. Slowly. …

PART 14 – I built a life that included travel, work, and family without treating my retirement money as proof of independence !! Read More

PART 15 – Walter and I chose a different kind of marriage only after accepting that love did not require one person to disappear !! Our new marriage looked less …

PART 15 – Walter and I chose a different kind of marriage only after accepting that love did not require one person to disappear !! Read More